“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.”
The meaning of virtuous as used here is: “Morally Excellent”.
Much of Proverbs 31 is King Lemuel writing what his mother told him. It speaks of how kings should act and of what kind of woman one should choose. I highly recommend that you read this one today and reflect upon it. https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/Proverbs-Chapter-31/
We should apply the term morally excellent to how we lived our lives. What does it mean to be morally excellent? I believe is can happen from just listening once and a while. We should listen to our “gut feeling” on matters more than just the fear factor. I listen to Jordan Peterson from time to time. He once said, “The best you can do is to do what is right”. Try this today. Get quiet and listen. Try not to think of anything. Just listen, and see what you have to say.