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65. Don’t get derailed

Proverbs 7:4-5

Say unto wisdom, Thou art my sister; and call understanding thy kinswoman:

That they may keep thee from the strange woman, from the stranger which flattereth with her words.

This could be looked at in a few different ways. The literal where it tells you to listen to the wisdom of the most high and of those who came before you and to cling to the wisdom and to not get caught up with another man’s wife.

We can also apply this wisdom to our daily lives. How many times to we set goals for ourselves and then get pulled off track by someone or something. I quit smoking a few years back and at work I had my daily smoking friends. At first, they would still come by and grab me to go for a smoke. As time went on and I still didn’t smoke they quit coming by to get me. I even would tell them, “hey come by and get me for a smoke I enjoy the conversations”. Still they eventually stopped. It seems evident now I was just someone to smoke with.

Keep your life on track. Commune with those who have your best interest at heart and who wish for you to succeed. This may be your immediate family.

 

64. Don’t bite off more than you can chew

Proverbs 6:5

Deliver thyself as a roe from the hand of the hunter, and as a bird from the hand of the fowler.

The beginning of Proverbs 6 hammers us to not get into debt over our heads. I have made some debt based mistakes many times in my life. When I was younger I got a credit card and went wild with it. It had a $500 limit and I spent it very quickly. Then when it came time to pay it, I couldn’t. Before you know it was $700. I finally decided I wasn’t responsible enough and cut up the card and canceled the account. I took steps to pay it off. Now that I am 20 years older I am much more careful with borrowing. It helps that I have a frugal partner in life to ground me. I still have some debt but as I can see retirement coming in 20 years are so I am adamant about paying the debt off as soon as possible. I don’t want my retirement income used up paying for things I need to live. Today’s society tells us you can have it now. Don’t fall into this trap.

63. Don’t make it easy

Proverbs 5:5

He shall die without instruction; and in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray

We must not look for the easy way out in life. I see it all the time today. Children are rewarded for not doing anything at all. Whenever we do something good and someone comments, “hey great job”, our brain releases a little dopamine and we get a good feeling in our bodies. If we give rewards to easily then this reward becomes expected all the time. This will continue to get worse and worse as time goes on. Before you know it you have a 30 year old do nothing living in your house. What will happen to them when you can no longer care for them? It is our job as parents and mentors to teach the young to live on after we are gone.

What are some ways you are teaching your kids to become self-reliant in the future? Please leave it in the comments section at the bottom of the page.

62. Weekend Projects

Proverbs 4:1

Hear, ye children, the instruction of a father, and attend to know understanding.

Today is Saturday and it is a usual day off for most. What a good time to spend time with your family and children. You may say, “I have so many projects to do I don’t have time”. I am guilty of this myself. We must take time to teach our children. Especially so if they attend school 5 days a week outside the home. We need to know if they need to be retaught anything. I am not saying the schools are teaching them wrong. I am saying they come into contact with a lot of other people and may be exposed to other opinions that may not be true. Let them help with some projects. When working around the home stead, I let my children hand me stuff if is safe. While doing the project speak to them. My twins are 5 and are full of questions. Answer their questions as honestly as you can. If you answer their questions they will be prone to always ask you first.

What are some projects you do with young children? Please leave them in the comments section at the bottom of the page.

61 Boy you’re gonna to wish you hadn’t!

Proverbs 3:1-2

My son, forget not my law; but let thine heart keep my commandments:

For length of days, and long life, and peace, shall they add to thee.

How many of us can say I wish I had listened to my parents on somethings? I know I can. You may say, “Times have changed and they don’t know”. This is true but somethings never change. My Mom and Dad use to always tell me to save some money out of every pay check. If I would have listened to them I would probably be close to retiring at my age of 40ish. There are other things I wish I would have listened to also. My grandfather use to tell me, “Birds of a feather flock together”. This meant to choose your friends wisely.

Please share in the comments some wise sayings your parents, grandparents and if you were lucky great grandparents use to tell you. I had the pleasure of knowing my Great Great Grand Mother. Her name was Nanny Belle.

60 Be able to live with yourself!

Proverbs 2:22

But the wicked shall be cut off from the earth, and the transgressors shall be rooted out of it.

To live a fruitful life and become self-reliant we must do what we can to be good to our fellow man. Today’s wisdom tells us that if we are not good to others we will end up in misery. We all see or hear of stories where bad things happen to good people and the opposite. You just don’t know what they might have done to get into those situations. Don’t be mad at anyone until you know all the facts. Always remember you have to live with what you have done. If you are evil to others to get a head you will always worry if they will come for you.

59 Don’t be simple

Proverbs 1:22

How long, ye simple ones, will ye love simplicity? and the scorners delight in their scorning, and fools hate knowledge?

It seems this was written about the masses of today’s world. How many people just want to go through life unbothered? How many people love trolling people into anger on social media without recourse? How many people are there that could care less about the truth?

Proverbs 1 introduces the book of proverbs and begs for us to receive wisdom, justice, judgment, and equity. A simple person is one who is happily satisfied with basic things. It can also mean one who goes along to get along. We shouldn’t be simple people. We should strive to become better and learn as much as we can. If someone argues that you are wrong, listen to them and then investigate if you are wrong. Don’t be a scorner because someone disagrees with you. Make your point. Listen to theirs. Find out who is right. Don’t hate knowledge. Seek wisdom every day. To learn is to live. No one can ever take knowledge from you.

58 Moral Excellence

 

Proverbs 31:10

“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.”

The meaning of virtuous as used here is: “Morally Excellent”.

Much of Proverbs 31 is King Lemuel writing what his mother told him. It speaks of how kings should act and of what kind of woman one should choose. I highly recommend that you read this one today and reflect upon it. https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/Proverbs-Chapter-31/

We should apply the term morally excellent to how we lived our lives. What does it mean to be morally excellent? I believe is can happen from just listening once and a while. We should listen to our “gut feeling” on matters more than just the fear factor. I listen to Jordan Peterson from time to time. He once said, “The best you can do is to do what is right”. Try this today. Get quiet and listen. Try not to think of anything. Just listen, and see what you have to say.

57 Never satisfied

Proverbs 30:15-16

The horseleach hath two daughters, crying, Give, give. There are three things that are never satisfied, yea, four things say not, It is enough:

The grave; and the barren womb; the earth that is not filled with water; and the fire that saith not, It is enough.

Doesn’t today’s proverb remind us of the  Great lie of the dichotomy and the political environment of today. Both sides are constantly telling us what we should think. Some are never satisfied. No matter what they will always ask for more. “Just do this and it will be better. Oh oh now do this and it will be better”. Don’t get caught up in either side. They are only using you for their gain. Remember this: They are one in the same. Concentrate on your own house. When that gets perfected then concentrate on your circle of influence. When that is perfected then move on to bigger things.

Pledge today to get your house hold in order.

56 You find out who your friends are

Proverbs 29:3

“Whoso loveth wisdom rejoiceth his father: but he that keepeth company with harlots spendeth his substance.”

As long as you have money and spend it foolishly you will have many so called friends. When you are down in the dumps you have but a few friends. These are the people who care about you. We should gain friends by helping to increase their wisdom and not by spending money on them. Make your friends lives better by knowing you. Have friends who make your life better also. I started a long time ago to not lone friends money. I either gave it to them as a gift or I would provide work for them to do. This way we were always kept things square between us.